THIS IS WHO I AM; A POEM

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This is me

I am a Woman

Created in the Image of God

And Likeness of God

Created to fulfil a purpose

And an Assignment

I am blessed

I am a blessing

I am joy

I am help; A helpmeet

I am the daughter of the

Most High

I am Beautiful, Unique

And Exceptional

I am not an Accident

I was made with Intention

I am on a Mission

To impact the Lives

Of everyone I meet

The works of my hands

Makes a difference

The words I write

Which are inspired by God

Heal, brings Encouragement

Brings Hope

To everyone who reads them

The food I bake

Is Filling, Enriching and Beautiful

I am a daughter

A Sister, A Friend

A Confidant

The best friend you

Could ever have

I am Whole

I am Complete

I am Secure

This is me

This is who I am

 

Who are you?

INEC will not count Your Prayer Points: Go and Get your PVC

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My fellow Nigerians, hahaha. Forgive me but I have to start this way. You know in Nigeria when a Government official begins with my Fellow Nigerians, you know they want to say something serious.

So my fellow Nigerians, another election will soon be upon us, I know you are praying for good leaders and a peaceful country but INEC will not count your prayer points, it’s your votes that will be counted. I know prayer is important, but we have prayed enough, it is now time for action and CHANGE.

This one is not APC’s change, oh, but the only way you can change and remove a bad government is through active participation and voting.

We have to get involved and be serious about good governance, we have slept on the sidelines for far too long.

How do you participate? Join politics, get involved. The days of saying Politics is a dirty game is long over. By the way, how won’t it be dirty when the people involved are dirty? If you want the game of politics to be clean, then clean people have to get involved.

If you can’t join politics, then you must exercise the power you have by getting registered, vote, educate and inform others to do same.

Don’t sell your vote, it is not for sale. It’s your future and the future of this great nation that we are talking about here. How can one mortgage his or her future for monetary gain? In fact, in some cases, it’s not even monetary gain, but things as little as tea, rice, garri etc.

The truth is politicians use the tool of poverty to continually enslave the people, if not how else will someone in his/her right senses will sell his/her vote for Lipton that you will drink today and piss out tomorrow.

Don’t mortgage your future for N500.

I remember the last election, in the FCT where I stay, it was difficult getting bikes during that period because Hausas had all travelled home to vote. But you tell Christians to vote, you hear one silly excuse or the other. Christians are just comfortable to pray. It haf do.

It would interest you to note that out of 67,422,005 being the total number of people who registered, only 29,432,083 of that number voted. It is even on record that the year 2015 has the lowest voter turnout ever since our transition to democracy. This must not be the case in 2019.

So my Fellow Nigerians, if you haven’t previously registered to vote, please do register and VOTE.

To register, visit the INEC website here. Type in the name of the state where you presently reside, for example, if you live in Abuja, just type in FCT. Click the result, a list of the registration centres in FCT will come up.

To confirm your voter registration status, click here.

If you have registered before, but you no longer live where you registered, you can transfer your registration, click here to know how to do so.

Protect your vote. Don’t sell your vote and please encourage others not to.

Let’s use every medium available to us, to campaign for active participation, registration and voting. If you want Nigeria to be better, you MUST fulfil this civic function.

God bless you all and bless this great country Nigeria.

Thank you for reading.

PS: If you do not vote, you have no right whatsoever to criticize any government.

 

Because You are a Woman: A Poem

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Because you are a Woman

You can’t be hard

You must learn to be soft

A Woman is soft

Because you are a Woman

You CANNOT be Stubborn

You CANNOT have your own Mind

Because you are a Woman

A Woman is not Stubborn

You must learn to always CHANGE

Your Mind

Because you are a Woman

You cannot express yourself

You must NOT say what you

REALLY mean to say

Because you are a Woman

You cannot be angry

Even if you are,

You must NOT show it

Because you are a Woman

You cannot argue

Even if you disagree

Don’t say it; Just agree

Because when you become a WIFE

You must not argue with your Husband

Because you are a Woman

You cannot talk back to me

It doesn’t matter if the other party

Is your colleague

You just CANNOT talk back to me

Because you are a Woman

You cannot go to another Church

What will people say?

Because you are a Woman

You must cook irrespective

Of whether you are tired or Not

Because when you become a WIFE

It will be a NEEDED skill

In your Husband’s House

Because you are a Woman

You must Marry and you

Must Marry NOW

Because you are a Woman

Your time is running out

So you MUST Marry NOW

Because you are a Woman

You don’t need to further

Your education

Too much book is not

Good for a Woman

Because you are a Woman

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On this side

I have been made to see that

Being a Woman is only

To my disadvantage

I can’t be myself

Because the way God made me

Has now become my LIMITATION

Because I am a Woman

I sometimes ask myself

Maybe something is wrong with me

Maybe I am not capable of

Doing something great;

And Becoming More

Maybe this life; the one

I have being limited to

Is truly the Life I am meant to Live

But No!

This is not it

I am more than this

I am more than what I am NOW

Because I am a Woman

I have been made for so much More

If you are a Lady reading this and you’ve ever been told you couldn’t do something because you are a Woman, kindly share in the comment section.

Thank you for reading and please don’t forget to share the article using the social media icons below.

 

Visiting a man is no justification for Rape

Recently, On Social Media, There Has Been Some Debate On Whether Ladies Who Visit The Houses Of Men Are Calling For Sex. This Debate Just Saddens Me. On Social Media, When You Read Of A Case Of Rape Or Sexual Harassment, People Question The Victim On Their Reason For Visiting The Perpetrator.


Questions Like “Why Did She Visit Him, If She Did Not Want To Have Sex?” Abound.

This Whole Thing Just Confuses Me. Is It That Men Have No Self-Control? Are They Raging Animals That Cannot Control Their Libido? Are Women Solely Objects Of Sexual Satisfaction, Don’t We Have Decent Men Anymore, Can’t A Lady Just Be Friends With A Man Without Being Friends With Benefits? Is A Woman Not Allowed To Visit A Man, Without Having Sex?

Honestly, When Did We Get To This Extent Of No Morals, No Decorum, Victim Blaming?

One Fateful Weekend On Twitter, Someone Did A Poll Asking Guys Who They Would Choose Between A Girl They Were Chasing For Months Who Finally Agreed To Spend The Night And A Male Friend Who Has An Interview Around That Area And Wants To Spend The Night At The Same House Because Of Distance.

Majority Of The Responses From Men Said They Would Pick TheGirl Because They Couldn’t Pass Out On An Opportunity For Sex. That Poll Is The Reason I Decided To Write This Post Today… Because I Had Been Putting Off Writing This Article.

It’s Unfortunate That While Society Spent All Its Time Bringing Up Girls To Be Responsible Human Beings And Good People, The Men Were Left Out Of The Equation.

We Succeeded In Making Men Feel Like Lords And Kings Who Need Not Have Any Sense Of Responsibility Or Duty; Being A Man Is Good Enough.

Now In Nigeria, A Lot Of Men Have A Feeling Of Entitlement And Superiority, Like Women Were Made For Them. They Believe Women Were Made To Satisfy Them.

We Have Forgotten To Bring Up Our Boys Right; Now We Have A Disaster In Our Hands. On The Day This Article Was Written, A Nigerian Celebrity, Put Out A Post Saying That Women Should Be Able To Move Freely Around Without Being Harassed And A Man, A Fellow Man Said The Way A Woman Dresses Dictates Whether She Would Be Sexually Harassed Or Not.

The Unfortunate Thing Is That The Average Man Feels That A Woman Visiting Him Is Calling For Sex. The Average Nigerian Man In His Heart Of Heart Feels Very Strongly, That As A Man A Woman Is An Object Of Sexual Satisfaction. That Is Why You Will Hear Silly Excuses Like: Why Did She Go Out Alone? Why Is She Dressed Like That? Why Did She Visit Him If She Knew She Didn’t Want To Have Sex?

I Remember A Year Ago, I Went To Visit A Male Friend Of Mine At Home And After About An Hour, He Said To Me, Do You Trust Me So Much That You Visited Me? I Didn’t Understand What He Meant. Then He Continued, Don’t Visit Men Oh, You Can’t Trust Anybody, You Don’t Know What They Are Capable Of Doing.

When I Was In 300 Level, I Remember One Of My Guardians Telling Me Not To Visit A Guy Who Lives Alone. According ToHer, I Could Be Raped, And This Was Like 10 Years Ago.

It’s Unfortunate That Consciously Or Unconsciously We’ve All Accepted That We Should Protect Our Girls From Men. Like Men Are Uncontrollable Animals. If You Disagree, Why Do We Tell Girls Don’t Walk On That Path Alone? In Our Subconscious We’ve Agreed That Men Are Animals Who Do Things Without Thinking, Just To Satisfy Themselves.

As If All This Is Not Enough, Ladies Now Have To Cope With Blame; Victim Blaming. A Girl Is Raped Or Sexually Harassed But Instead Of Condemning The Abuser And The Act, Instead Of Giving Justice To The Victim, The Victim Is Blamed For An Action That Was Done Against Her.

You Begin To Hear: Why Did You Go To That Concert? Why Did You Go To His House? Why This? Why That?

We’ve Successfully Omitted The Abuser And Given Reasons For His Stupid Actions And Then Transferred The Blame To TheWoman Because As A Man In Nigeria, Your Actions Are Always Justifiable.

This Is Not A Man-Bashing Article, No. It Is An Article Written Out Of Grief And Sadness For The Society We Presently Live In. This Is A Call For Our Men To Do Better; You Guys Are More Than This Honestly.

Ladies, Be Intentional About Who You Call A Friend, Be Intentional About Your Relationships. And While You Are It, Please Don’t Visit A Man You Cannot Vouch For (Who Can You Trust Sef?) If Anything Happens, People Would Ask You Why You Went There. 

Men, I Don’t Want To Believe You Guys Are Uncontrollable Animals Who Have No Respect For Women. Don’t Be An Animal, Cultivate Meaningful Friendships And Relationships. Be Different. Don’t Join The Bandwagon Of Rapists And Sexual Abusers. A Woman Is Not The Object Of Your Sexual Fantasy.

Fathers And Mothers Raise Your Sons Well, Teach Them To Respect Women. The Same Hand You Use To Discipline Your Daughters Should Be The Same Hand You Use To Discipline Your Sons. Teach Your Sons That Waiting Until Marriage Is Best, Otherwise That A NO Is A NO. Teach Them What Consent Is. Most Importantly, Show Them How People Should Be Treated, By The Way, You Treat Each Other.

Dearest Society, Please Stop Blaming Victims When They Courageously Speak Out And Seek Justice. Believe Victims And Stop Trying To Justify The Attack.

This Post Is Not Saying Women Should Be Sleeping Over At A Man’s House No, I’m Only Saying When A Lady Visit A Man Is No Reason Why She Should Be Raped.

Lastly, To The Men, What Is It About A Woman’s Visit That Implies You Must Have Sex With Her?

Thank You For Reading; I Await Your Thoughts In The Comment Section.

PS: This Artice Was First Published On Bella Naija, You Can Check It Out Here.

Debbie’s Corner: Am I ready to become a Doctor?

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Howdy, everyone?

How’s the last month of the year going like for you?

So it’s no longer news that I’m an aspiring doctor

But then I sometimes ask myself

“Hey girl, are you sure you want to be a doctor?

Are you sure you’ve got what it takes

All the stress, the exams and all

Can you really cope?

Forget the prestige of the name doctor,

Do you love the job?

Forget the lab coat,

Do you love the lifestyle (because medicine is a lifestyle)

Are you sure someone can entrust their life in your hands?

Forget all those childhood dreams, Debbie,

Do you really have the passion?

Have you been called to it? (because being a doctor is a calling)”

And then I answer myself saying

“I can do it

I was born for it

I have the passion to be a doctor

I love the job

And the lifestyle too

I believe I can do all things

Because Christ has given me the strength

I know that I have been called into this tasking army

God has given me the opportunity to choose between life and death

And I have chosen life

So yes, someone can entrust their life in my hands

Not because I can do it all

But because I know the eternal creator is always beside me

I am going into this, not for myself

But because I know

A lot of lives are tied to it

Both spiritually and physically”

And whenever I remind myself this,

I get a new zeal

A new strength to forge ahead, to carry on

I am reassured in my spirit

That I can do this

And yes I will.

Deborah Adeyanju Is An Aspiring Medical Doctor Who Is Passionate About Making A Difference In The World Of Medicine And Life. Read Her Previous Article HERE.