Hello everyone, long time no hear. Today I’m going to talking about an issue that’s very passionate to me. Single Ladies, this post is for you.
This New Year I have been following a popular Nigerian Psychologist Instagram page and from his page, I discovered a very disgusting ugly trend among ladies. Stories of ladies slaving for a man all in a bid to get married.
There’s a lot of desperation among ladies to get and keep a man. The most painful part is that the men whose ladies are doing heaven on earth for them, most often do not appreciate it.
That’s why I always say, Ladies stop doing wifey duties for a man who isn’t your husband.
All these nonsense of cooking, washing and cleaning for a man who is not your husband should stop.
You are not an abandoned property neither are you a cheap commodity that is in a hurry to be sold off to any Tom, Dick and Harry, No.
I hear some people say, if you don’t do all these things, how would he know you’re a wife material? You don’t have to prove anything to show him you are the one for him; he is the one that should prove to you that he’s the one for you, not the other way round.
Dear lady, you are not the one to be looking for a husband. Accompanying the above ugly trend is the one where Ladies will be competing amongst themselves, trying to get a guy’s attention, please STOP it. Marriage is not a competition, neither is it a race.
Don’t let any man play God over you, that you start fighting a fellow woman over him. I have come to realise that, it’s we ladies that encourage irresponsibility, we let men eat their cake and have it. He is not a trophy to be won, so don’t fight over a guy; you have nothing to prove.
Unfortunately, this is the reason why domestic violence will not stop.
As you throw yourself at him, and open your precious legs for him, cook and wash his clothes, he will see you as a very cheap product. Your value before him has reduced, and unfortunately, the more you sleep with him, the less he thinks of you. What do you do with something you have no regard or value for? You simply throw it away or use it as a rag.
It’s unfortunate that ladies, who you think should know better are the ones who behave like their brain is on holiday. How can a lady be paying the bills of a boyfriend, house him, buy him clothes, cook for him, sleep with him and yet the guy is not treating her well, on top of that, he may even be using her for boxing practice, but instead of leaving the relationship because she deserves better she stays on the relationship because to her, singleness is a disease and it is better to have someone even if he doesn’t treat me well, he would change one day.
We want abuse to stop? Let’s treat ourselves better. You do know that you are precious right? You are the apple of God’s eyes, and you are worth more than just being a Mrs, you are powerful beyond your imagination; most importantly, your life is NOT defined by the existence or presence of a man.
I use to be very naïve, foolish and stupid in love. I was held in the bondage of a stupid relationship, but until the day I discovered I AM WORTH MORE THAN RUBIES and I DESERVE BETTER I was still being a slave.
I really wish you know you have value and you are to be treated like the QUEEN that you are.
Don’t sell yourself cheap. Don’t carry yourself like you have no value. You are a precious jewel, the Apple of the Lord’s eye. He took his time to create you.
The bible says in Matthew 7:6 (NKJV), “Do not give what is holy to the dogs; nor cast your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you in pieces”.
Because you are valuable, you cannot afford to be with someone who treats you like trash.
Love is in action not in words, and any man who doesn’t VALUE you needs to be shown the door.