A few weeks back I, my dad & my sister went for a naming ceremony, as we were returning, we picked a man we know. Prior to the time he entered the vehicle, we were all gisting (word for carefree talking), laughing and having a good time. But immediately he entered the vehicle, the whole atmosphere changed.
We were talking about funny labour stories we had heard, but this man started talking about pathetic and sad things that had happened to him and immediately instead of the laughter we were all sharing, it became a chorus of eh ya (Nigerian slang for pity/sorry).
He was revelling in the pity party he had organized and which we had joined in. He was talking about events that had happened twenty-something years ago. How he’s suffering, how he almost died, how he almost lost his son when the boy was born, how he even died and God brought him back, how he wished he didn’t come back. He just kept saying these things to garner pity.
It was unbelievable how a single individual could carry such negativity about, you met a joyous atmosphere, but no, the attention had to be on you.
You would think with all the “suffering” he’s experiencing, he would have some sense, but no, this guy has six (6) children. Not 2 or even 3, but 6 children!
And I began asking myself, how can you be so wicked as to bring plenty children into the world to come and suffer.
One day a colleague & I were talking about an issue like this, he was telling me how he wanted one more child, and I could not understand it because this is a man who borrows to pay his present three(3) children school fees.
I was asking him why he wanted more children when he could barely take care of the three he had and he said, what if it’s that one more child that God will use to liberate the family from poverty?
I’ve never heard anything more ridiculous; he said you have to keep on having children because you don’t know which of them God will use to deliver the family from poverty.
The unfortunate thing is, only the poor thinks this way. If you can’t cater for a child, don’t bring them to the world. It is your responsibility as a parent to take care of your children. It’s only people with a mindset of poverty that wait for their children to grow old so they can provide for them.
How can you have six children and you are complaining of poverty & suffering? It’s a given; if you don’t have a job and you have kids you will definitely be poor. It’s not fair bringing children into the world just to make them suffer, asides that, with that type of negativity things will definitely be hard.
This man attends my church and every single time, you would see his six children trekking to church, irrespective of the time and distance.
I was telling my sister, how dangerous that is. You are putting them at risk every single time, in the name of going to church!
There’s a saying that was popular on social media, that if you don’t work hard, you will spend all your time in church shouting, I RECEIVE.
It’s funny but true, the average poor Christian believes all I need to make to make it in life is to pray. Prayer is good, but in the wise words of a very great woman, Jemimah Mbaya, if your life is not moving forward, it’s time to stop praying and start thinking.
God doesn’t reward laziness; if you put in the work he will bless the work of your hands.
There was a time on twitter, a lady wrote, if you don’t have a car; don’t have more than two children. There was a lot of uproar about that statement, but there’s so much truth in it.
Why are you poor? because you are making wrong choices.
God gave us brain for a reason, so you would think; so use it.
Like I always say, this life is 100% your responsibility, NO ONE is coming to rescue you, I don’t care who you think has that responsibility; NO ONE has got that job.
So get up and do YOUR job NOW.