“Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires”. Song of Songs 8:4 (NIV)
This verse of the bible applies to many things and can be used in so many areas, but I would like to talk about one aspect today.
I was reading a popular blog yesterday and a lady was asking a question, that she liked a particular guy who was just friends with her; meanwhile, she’s dating someone else who she’s not in love with! She was now asking how she could make the one she likes like her back.
Unfortunately, this is the position of a lot of ladies today, you are in love with a guy who’s not even taken notice of you, and you really feel like dying.
The truth is I have been in this position before, in fact, that’s what inspired THIS ARTICLE HERE. You like someone and he’s not reciprocating the way you want.
You know what ladies, if you ever find yourself in a situation like this, let the guy go, don’t try to push it. I was telling my cousin recently when we were talking about something like this; our prayer should be let the one we like, like us too and let God also approve the relationship.
Ladies if you like a guy and the guy is not showing interest don’t force it or try to throw yourself at him; it usually backfires. Some guys may actually like you, but they want to take things slow, and he may see your force as desperation and take to his heels. Desperation has never looked good on anybody. Sometimes being a boss lady is not necessarily good in all areas; because some ladies may want to take the reins in a relationship.
Some guys may not just want to pursue a relationship with you, not necessarily because there’s something wrong with you, but that’s just his choice and you’ve got to respect that.
Think about it, forcing yourself on a guy actually speaks of a low self-esteem, he’s not the only man in the world, and there would be someone who would love every bit of who you are, so chill. You’re bigger than begging/cajoling or manipulating someone into marrying you.
I have realized that when a lady is head over heels in love with a guy, she begins to do even the unimaginable things just to get his attention or to prove to him that’s she’s the one for him. Unfortunately, this often doesn’t end well.
It’s not the end of the world if someone doesn’t like you, it’s normal; in fact, that’s life, not everyone would like you, neither is it everyone that likes you, that you would date. The truth is; you yourself don’t like everyone.
I have always believed that, if you truly love someone, you would respect that person’s decision when it comes to the matters of the heart, even if that decision does not include you. Love is; I want the best for you; and if that best doesn’t include me, I’m ok with it; because love doesn’t impose; neither does it force itself on others.
Unfortunately, the type of love we have nowadays is the selfish kind, we know someone doesn’t like us, yet we do all in our power to make that person ours, that’s selfish, you know why? Because you’re thinking of yourself alone, not putting into consideration the other person’s opinion.
Don’t take it too hard on yourself or beat yourself up if someone you like is not reciprocating, it doesn’t mean something is wrong with you.
The truth is, as time goes on, you will eventually meet the one who’s heart would be in sync with yours.
Don’t awaken love until its time; let Love be until it pleases.
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