Good morning everyone, I hope we all had a memorable weekend? Well, I did, and I don’t think I’ll ever forget this past weekend. You want to know what happened; well that’s a gist for another day. This morning I want to talk about an issue that is really perplexing to me, something that I’ve being pondering on for the past few days.
I don’t know how many of you read the story of the seven (7) and the ten (10) year old boys who raped and killed a one (1) year old girl. That story is so bizarre and so disheartening; I couldn’t bring myself to finish reading the story.
That event got me thinking, what is it about sex that people cannot wait to indulge in it? What is it about sex that rape is on the increase? What is it about sex that would make a lady who’s a virgin feel so ashamed of her virginity that she would look for a random guy to disvirgin her? What is it about sex that would make children rape a one (1) year old child? Why is premarital sex on the rise? WHAT IS IT ABOUT SEX?
I was just asking myself these questions and I came to the conclusion that the rush and the impatience of sex is just a lie of the devil. Just look at everywhere; rape, incest, premarital sex is on the increase. It has become normal for people in relationships to be sleeping together, just have a contrary opinion and you’re termed the minority (old school or something is wrong with you). I honestly don’t get this crave for sex.
This impatience and this rush for premarital sex is just a big tool of the enemy to derail us. I wonder when we got to this point in our society that being good in bed is a prerequisite in choosing a life partner.
I read a foolish story on a blog some weeks back of a lady who was a virgin but was having problems keeping a relationship. She felt her “virginity status” was responsible for her lack of a relationship so she went online seeking a guy who would deliver her from her “predicament”. So she found a guy, went to his place and ended up being raped by two men (the guy and his friend).
After I read that story; I was of the opinion that we are not doing enough. The Word has not yet spread; there’s so much to be done to counter the lies of premarital sex that the enemy is spreading. Virginity is not a tool to attract a man or keep him but it’s a spiritual principle for spiritual growth and development. If the devil can get you sexually, he has gotten you in his hands, (wonder why there are a lot of ineffective Christians). One of the most effective ways as a Christian to make an impact is when you’re sexually pure.
Do you think God doesn’t know what He’s doing when He said we shouldn’t have sex before marriage? You think he doesn’t know that our blood will be rushing? 1 Corinthians 10:13 (NIV), “No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it”.
The truth is the laws and the commandments of God are for our own benefit. Imagine the number of sicknesses and diseases that are contracted as a result of premarital sex/adultery? Imagine the number of homes that would still be intact if no spouse was involved in adultery? Imagine the number of children born out of wedlock that need the enabling environment of a home? Imagine the heartache, the shame that would be avoided if there was no sex between unmarried people?
Ask yourself again WHY THIS RUSH FOR SEX? The devil has succeeded in making people see sex as the ultimate, so therefore it must be done now.
Isaiah 57:1a (NIV), “The righteous perish, and no one takes it to heart; the devout are taken away, and no one understands”.
Ask yourself again, after sex WHAT NEXT? This impatience for sex is just an easy lie of the enemy to get us out of God’s will and plan for our lives.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 (NIV), “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God”.
Sex should wait till you get married and should only be done with your spouse. Hebrews 13:4 (NIV), “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral”.
Ask the Lord for grace and strength to overcome challenges in this area. Get rid of everything that can stimulate your want for sex. If the person you’re in a relationship with is demanding for sex, please LEAVE THAT RELATIONSHIP NOW.
Get rid of books, movies, websites that will propagate feelings of sexual activity in your mind. Matthew 5:28 (NIV), “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart”.
Association is everything, if the people you move with don’t see anything wrong with having sex outside of marriage, then change your circle of friends. 1 Corinthians 6:18 (NIV), “Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body”.
Don’t sleep in the same room with a member/s of the opposite sex; don’t cohabit with the opposite sex, even if you guys are sleeping in different rooms, DON’T EVER THINK YOU CANNOT FALL. 1 Corinthians 10:12 (KJV), “Wherefore let him that thinketh he standeth take heed lest he fall”.
Don’t ever get too comfortable with your boyfriend/girlfriend as to staying together in dark corners/places/rooms ALONE.
Fill your heart with God’s word, pray continually, get busy, don’t pick booty calls, learn a new skill, read a new book, just don’t stay idle. The idle mind is the workshop of the enemy. 1 Peter 5:8 (NIV), “Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour”.
If you’re a virgin here, don’t be afraid of being the odd one out, invest in God’s kingdom, that way you’re laying up for yourself treasures and your maker doesn’t sleep; He will reward at the appropriate time. Ladies don’t collect things from guys so there won’t be any feelings of indebtedness. Get a job or face your studies. Everything has its own appointed time.
Parents; be careful what your children watch on TV, know their friends, be their friend; so they can open up to you, most importantly teach them God’s word, moreover, it’s not everyone that you can leave your child with. Proverbs 22:6 (KJV), “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it”.
This is a call to everyone of us who are children of God, let’s get ahead of the enemy, let’s counteract every of his devices, MOST IMPORTANTLY LET’S STAY SEXUALLY PURE.
Thank you for reading, God bless you. As always, I love to hear from you, write a comment and let me know what you think about this issue. Or you can send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org
Love Great Lady.