Before I was wheeled in, we goofed around and took pictures. He made me laugh so much that all anxiety vanished. As I momentarily looked back on the day Soni and I exchanged vows “to love each other for better for worse, in sickness and in health” I realized that many couples have no idea of the weight of those vows until one of the two partners faces some physical, mental, financial and emotional setback. And then that moment when it dawns on you that your marriage was founded on convenience. In sickness and in health!? What does that even mean? I know of a man who moved into the guest room the moment his wife was diagnosed with cancer leaving her to travel that bleak journey alone. I know of women whose husbands cannot even be reached when their wives go into labour…I know of women who bail out of their marriages because their husband’s biz took a nose dive…”for better for worse?” Right?
Like most young ladies, I was starry eyed when I took my vows, they were just vows; I was getting married and hoped to live happily ever after. The truth is, those vows are not some nursery rhymes you repeat after the priest or pastors, they are sacred! Your marriage will depend on them! Don’t utter them unless you’re ready to live true to them. Taking those vows in front of 500 applauding guests is not the same as renewing them every day in front of that one person to whom the vow was uttered. Life happens. We can’t avoid that. But give your marriage the best shot. Don’t give up on each other too soon. Don’t forget those vows. Hold them dear to your heart.